…ationships is like attracts like. Meaning, a confident person will attract another confident person. An insecure person will unconsciously seek out relationships with men who will make them feel more insecure. They will want the unavailable guys, the guys who can’t commit, the guys who have walls up. These are the ones they will feel infatuated by, not the ones who show real, genuine interest. Oftentimes, this happens because on an unconscious level, the insecure woman feels that if she can break through his walls, or get him to change his ways, then she’ll really be worthy and valuable. This never, ever works. Instead, she just ends up compromising her integrity even further by chasin…
Another great point. I’m writing a piece now on emotional availability that reveals just how insecure I’ve been in the past with my dating life. I was so insecure, that I sought out men (and women, I’m bisexual) who made me feel more insecure. As a result, I would constantly chase and become infatuated by people who were unavailable. I loved the ‘thrill of the chase’ and never cared about people who showed genuine interest. Genuine interest from a man was too real and scary to process.
This statement described me perfectly two years ago, and I’m so thankful I’m becoming aware of it. I think this is a key concept that every women should read and take to heart.